Thou Art The Man – When You Are What You Hate In Other People

2 Samuel 12:1 – And the Lord sent Nathan unto David. And he came unto him, and said unto him, There were two men in one city; the one rich, and the other poor.

2 Samuel 12:2 – The rich man had exceeding many flocks and herds:

2 Samuel 12:3 – But the poor man had nothing, save one little ewe lamb, which he had bought and nourished up: and it grew up together with him, and with his children; it did eat of his own meat, and drank of his own cup, and lay in his bosom, and was unto him as a daughter.

2 Samuel 12:4 – And there came a traveller unto the rich man, and he spared to take of his own flock and of his own herd, to dress for the wayfaring man that was come unto him; but took the poor man’s lamb, and dressed it for the man that was come to him.

2 Samuel 12:5 – And David’s anger was greatly kindled against the man; and he said to Nathan, As the Lord liveth, the man that hath done this thing shall surely die:

2 Samuel 12:6 – And he shall restore the lamb fourfold, because he did this thing, and because he had no pity.

2 Samuel 12:7 – And Nathan said to David, Thou art the man. Thus saith the Lord God of Israel, I anointed thee king over Israel, and I delivered thee out of the hand of Saul;

2 Samuel 12:8 – And I gave thee thy master’s house, and thy master’s wives into thy bosom, and gave thee the house of Israel and of Judah; and if that had been too little, I would moreover have given unto thee such and such things.

2 Samuel 12:9 – Wherefore hast thou despised the commandment of the Lord, to do evil in his sight? thou hast killed Uriah the Hittite with the sword, and hast taken his wife to be thy wife, and hast slain him with the sword of the children of Ammon.

Hello readers, first blog of 2021! Happy new year, hope you have a great year. I’ve been thinking of how people turn over a new leaf at the start of the new year. But what’s going to change your life isn’t a new year, it’s going to be trusting God’s word and obeying it in your life. You see, the Bible says this in Psalm 1:3 – And he shall be like a tree planted by the rivers of water, that bringeth forth his fruit in his season; his leaf also shall not wither; and whatsoever he doeth shall prosper.

If you’ve read the rest of the first Psalm, you know that this verse is of course striking a contrast between the blessed man and the ungodly. What category do you fall into? There are only two kingdoms, you’re either saved or not. The blessed man is someone who put’s God word at number one in their life. They reject the counsel, the way, the seat… because their delight is in the law of God. How on earth does someone love the law of God? Well that takes a new heart doesn’t it.

Jesus is the blessed man, he fulfilled this chapter. The only way you are going to stand in the judgment is if you delighted, meditated upon and made God’s word your rule, your authority, your life.

Note how the Bible says his leaf shall not wither. How appropriate to this time of year. New year’s resolutions in many cases are just new leaves. You may have heard of the saying “turning over a new leaf”. Salvation is not a new year’s resolution, a new leaf or planning to do better. Salvation is believing the gospel of the Lord Jesus Christ.

True change is only possible through the work of the Holy Spirit in your life, God changing in you when you trust his word. When that reality is in place, when you’ve believed the gospel, repenting of your sin, acknowledging the truth… well you’re no longer chaff that’s going to be blown away in the wind, instead you’re a tree planted by the rivers of water. Jesus has the living water… get your roots down in his word.

With all this in mind, today I want to talk about something I recently saw in the story of David and Bathsheba. It’s actually after David’s sin and attempted cover up. There was a bit of time that passed before God sent the man of God… to the man of God.

Well, Nathan came to David and told him a parable. He told a story about a rich man, with plenty of sheep, who took a poor man’s only lamb to feed a traveler that was come to stay with him. David was pretty angry at he man that Nathan described. He didn’t realize until Nathan told him “thou art the man”, that David realized Nathan’s story was about David.

But what a truth in the Bible. David would write a famous Psalm, Psalm 51, which is his repentance prayer to God over his sin with Bathsheba. Psalm 51:6 – Behold, thou desirest truth in the inward parts: and in the hidden part thou shalt make me to know wisdom. Why did David say God desires truth in the inward parts?

Well it has to do when Nathan came to him and told him this story! You see, today we are talking about thou art the man… when YOU are what you hate. There’s many things you may despise in others, and which you hold others guilty for… but you don’t yet see that you are what you don’t like.

David hated hearing about this story of injustice, how evil this man was to abuse his power and position and take advantage of a poor man. But David was guilty of doing exactly that. His sin with Bathsheba was exactly that… but he didn’t quite see it yet. Because he’d made an allowance for himself, he had allowed himself an indulgence of adultery and murder. He didn’t see the truth about HIMSELF. So often we are experts on everyone else, and oh boy we are good at picking apart other people, but so often we don’t see that we are everything that we say we hate. What we are finding fault in everyone else for is exactly what WE are guilty of.

So many of us are so quick to find fault in others, we hold people in contempt and condemnation for that which we really are guilty of. See, humans have this amazing ability to make themselves exceptions. We externalize truth rather than truth ever dwelling inside us and applying it to our own hearts, minds and lives. Do you see who and what you truly are? David needed Nathan to hold a mirror to himself, maybe you need the mirror of God’s word so you can see how ugly not everyone else is… how ugly you are.

Instead of looking at others, God wants us to look inwardly first and foremost. Before you become an expert on others and sit in the judgment seat of everyone else, oh and you’re so above everyone else… how about you take a look at yourself. Most people don’t want to look at themselves, David sure didn’t. We’re not quick to take ownership of the fact the problem isn’t that person out there we don’t get along with… it’s us.

Even when we read the Bible we tend to apply it to everyone else’s life other than ourselves. But the truth is, often we are the actual problem. If we would get right with God, all those external conflicts and issues and grievances… God would sort them out. What does God desire? He desires truth in your inward parts. Is the truth in you? Do you have the capacity to look in the mirror first before pointing the finger?

When you entered the tabernacle of witness in the Old Testament… there was a laver of water. You saw your reflection in it. You’d wash your hands in it. God wants us clean, if you say you are a saved, well that makes you a vessel of God, he wants you clean. But you can’t be clean until you see yourself, until you have that capacity to realize and acknowledge the truth about your sin, your heart, your mind, your life.

If you want fixing, if you want healing, if you want things better… that comes when you stop making everyone else the problem, and realize we are the problem. You know even Job came to that conclusion? He hadn’t done anything wrong but he said I abhor myself and repent in dust and ashes. Why did God turn his captivity only after he prayed for those three friends who’d heaped accusations and misery on him? Because his three friends were whatever, Job couldn’t change them, who God was interested in was Job. Despite all he’d been through, he still cared for them. We can’t control many circumstance and situations we are in, that’s up to God, God cares about what we are doing, what is in our heart, who we fundamentally are.

While we want to make everyone and everything else the problem, God wants us to see ourselves for what we truly are. That’s what the Holy Spirit will do in a saved person’s life. How can the Spirit of truth be in you… yet no truth be in you?

Think about it… why did Nathan have to tell David this story rather than directly confront him about his sin? Because David wasn’t looking at himself. All his coverup showed that, he wasn’t prepared to deal with that. Often we don’t want to see what we are, because we don’t want to deal with it and have to make changes. That man in Psalm 1… he makes some big decisions about who he’s around and who he isn’t around, what he does and doesn’t do… he cuts ungodly influences out his life, he focuses his life solely on the word of God. Day and night his life revolved around the word of God.

It’s hard to deal with things when we don’t want to deal with them. When we’re not prepared to confront them. It’s pretty hard to confront sin isn’t it. David didn’t want to confront his at all. Much easier to bury and hide and pretend and choose lies and deceit. It can be quite hard to confront truth, and that’s why we choose lies, we choose delusion, we run from having to face up. David didn’t think he’d have to face up. He thought he’d buried the truth with Uriah. But he hadn’t.

David hated seeing evil happen, he hated sin. But somehow he had found himself not living by the standards he expected of others. He had lost that ability to even recognize the truth about himself first and foremost. God wants truth in our lives, in our hearts.

There’s many traits, flaws, behaviors that you probably despise in other people. But are you that kind of person that you despise when you see it in others? Often we in fact are what we hate. Do you have enough truth in you to see the truth about not others… but you. God’s interested in you. He’ll sort others out, you need to worry about you first. All that other stuff is very secondary to your standing with God.

The first thing God does through his Spirit is he ministers the truth about yourself to you in the light of his word. When you start to get a clear sight into who and what you are… it’s pretty ugly… isn’t it? Or are you still in the you’re perfect, or a pretty good person, or not as bad as others, or whatever justifications and excuses you cling to… you’re still in that mode? You can fool others as David did… but you don’t fool God for a second. When truth comes to our hearts, we don’t have any trouble seeing how sinful and depraved and deceitful and fallen we are. We don’t have trouble with acknowledging that God is true and I’m a liar. The reason we ever kicked at the truth is because there was no truth in us… that’s the truth.

Jesus made it quite clear to worry about the beam in your own eye before trying to take the mote out of someone else’s. Get your house in order before fixing someone else. It could just be that what you despise in other people, what you hold others guilty and in condemnation for… that’s exactly what you are. David was everything he didn’t like seeing. He wasn’t seeing the truth about himself. Truth hurts a lot more when it hits close to home. That’s why we avoid it, that’s why people reject Jesus Christ, because their deeds are evil. Light is pretty bright and revealing when all we have is darkness and all that ugliness hid in it.

This new year, like every day of our lives, it begins with the truth. The truth of who God is, who his Son is, and who we are. Where is that truth? It’s in God’s word, that’s his communication line to his Creation, and his Holy Spirit sent forth into this world guides and leads us in accordance with what he has said, ministering it to each of our lives. God wants us to take ownership of the truth not in relation to everyone else, but in our own hearts and lives.

The truth about each of us is we are wicked sinners who need a Saviour. The truth is ugly, because our lives and minds and hearts are an ugly picture. But when exposed, when there is a repentance to the acknowledging of the truth… there is hope. Because later on, David would pray for a clean heart and a right spirit… which God gave him. God reveals the truth about us for our good, so we can be fixed. Things can’t be fixed, they can’t be set right… until there is an acknowledgement of truth.

Thou art the man. Is God saying that to you today? We seem to be able to see what everyone else is… but not ourselves. But God wants us to see what we are. David experienced that. He saw who and what he was. Truth in the inward parts. The problem is me. I’m what I hate in others. I’m guilty of what I hold others guilty for. God recorded this story for us so we could learn from it, so that we like David, would experience that same repentance that we read of in Psalm 51.

David realized Nathan was sent to him, so that he could see the truth about himself. God’s word cut straight through all the rubbish, bluster and coverup… and although we all cover up who and what we truly are… we need to take ownership of our sin, of who and what we are, and call upon God to save us from our sin. Yes it’s ugly, but we have a Saviour, the Lord Jesus, who swaps his beauty for our ashes. Beauty for ashes is a good deal, David had ashes for a life through his own sin, but God gave him the beauty of truth, repentance, forgiveness and salvation. That can be each one of us today, thou art the man.


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Hi, my name is Joseph Zadow. I am a 30 y/o Bible Blogger. I was new to blogging once! God’s word is the best thing that we can be given, and once we have it and know it for ourselves it is both a privilege and responsibility to bring it to others! We are blessed to be a blessing! I am a sinner (for sure!) saved by God’s grace through faith in Jesus Christ and I am a Lord Jesus Christ follower. He is faithful even though I rarely am to him. I believe the Bible is the word of God, and stake my life on it. My destination is heaven. As they say, I’m just a passin’ through this world… although most of the time it’s more like hangin’ by a thread in Jericho! I love playing sports – particularly cricket… I currently work on an orchard and a side hobby business of mine is growing vegetables etc – they are good for you! I love writing. Always happy to talk, so feel free to leave a comment. You can read more about me and my blog here – :)

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